By Rosemary Foster, Private Social Security Disabilities Attorney


Chances are sometime in your life you will have to deal with the Social Security Administration so here are some suggestions:

1.  If you need help with the problem or application, get someone you trust to help you.

2.  Keep a diary of your contacts with Social Security personnel…dates, times and who you   talked to and what was said.

3.  Try to find someone at SSA you have talked to before about your situation.  Try to get their name and their extension to help       expedite processing of your situation. If you need to make several contacts.

4.  Keep a copy of everything you send in…you may have to send it in again.files

5.  Spend some time filling out forms about your condition carefully.  Use examples and try to make the description as complete and accurate as possible.

6. Keep all the paperwork associated with your issue in a safe place.  This includes doctor reports, miscellaneous information and SSA correspondence.

7.  Don’t forget to have a family member or friend write a letter on your behalf describing your condition or situation.  SSA has a form called the third Party Function Report if you want to use it.

8.  Finally, share the issue or application process with someone you trust.  Filing  an SSA disability application can be a long and arduous process and it helps to share and receive support along the way.

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“I personally used Rosemary’s services to help with a Disabilities claim for my grandson. What a relief that I did not have to deal with the paperwork and government system! She was incredibility patient working directly with my grandson. Thank you, Rosemary, for being there when we needed someone to help.”   MAx Fabry, CEO,


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9781843100980_p0_v1_s114x166  I wish that all teachers would read this book, “Freaks, Geeks & Asperger Syndrome: A User Guide to Adolescence” by Luke Jackson.  It always amazes me the insight that can be gained from reading a book written by someone who has AS.  Luke Jackson offers a unique perspective of a thirteen-year-old boy with AS.  For teachers who have students with AS, he does a great job of letting us inside his head and seeing how and what he thinks. Many of the problems AS students may be having with school are not simply because they are lazy or because they are being defiant.  Luke talks about the classroom environment and how it can be difficult for someone with AS to learn in for a long list of reasons.  He points out that, in middle school, just staying organized and getting from class to class on time is challenging and how teachers often forget this and tend to blame the student for not having written down assignments, not turning in homework, etc.

Luke Jackson has a section about homework, which typically is a big problem for children who have AS.  Luke Jackson mentions that the idea of doing school work at home does not make sense to the child with AS and creates problems for him or her and their family at home, oftentimes leading to meltdowns.  Luke states that all school work should be completed at school and not brought home as homework.  He also notes that children with AS tend to understand things literally and not figuratively and how being concrete thinkers can be a challenge in a middle school classroom.  Teachers need to be aware of all of this when they are having problems with an AS student and not assume that the student is just acting out or being rebellious by not completing assignments or not doing exactly what the teacher requires.

Luke Jackson talks throughout the book about the social challenges the AS adolescent faces at school or out in public.  He gives advice on the importance of being yourself and ways to make friends or interact socially.  Luke gives hope that AS teens can make connections in the social world of adolescence.  He uses humor often and takes pride in being “different.”  Luke Jackson’s book has an empowering feel to it and I strongly recommend it to teachers and anyone who works with or knows someone with AS.

Pisces: Returning to Oneness Consciousness

Pisces: Returning to Oneness Consciousness

“All human beings are interconnected, one with all other elements in creation.”

                                                     – Henry Reed  
Monday the Sun will leave the rational, reforming air sign of Aquarius and enter the empathic and impressionable water sign of Pisces. Each succeeding sign of the zodiac builds upon the foundation laid by the previous sign by rectifying or redirecting its energy. Pisces invites us to disengage from the individualist’s intellect and merge into the spiritual oneness of humanity with sensitivity and compassion.

A changeable and adapting mutable sign of negative polarity, receptive Pisces experiences the world through an emotional and idealistic filter. It receives images, impressions and visions that are subtle, undefined, or nebulous. Knowledge and insights seep into its mind through osmosis. Pisces has an active and creative imagination and is adept in visualization. Images, metaphors, archetypes and symbols hold deeper, richer, more spiritual meaning for Pisces than literal descriptions of objects and events. Artistic and romantic, Pisces expresses itself through poetry, painting and music.
Pisces’ sensitive and intuitive nature is strongly affected by the emotions and energies of others. Because it merges effortlessly with other people, it has difficulty discerning its own feelings from the emotions of others.Empathetic Pisces has much sympathy and forgiveness for humanity with all its imperfections. Its generous nature is devoted to easing grief and suffering in the world.
Impressionable and susceptible to outside influences, Pisces can feel overwhelmed and inadequate dealing with the physical world and the day-to-day realities of life. It can be impractical, careless, or delusional. Pisces can feel fearful and retreat into itself or seek escape through addictive substances and behaviors. In relationships Pisces can be timid and submissive, naive and co-dependent.
Being humble, Pisces feels guilt, shame and consequently a need to atone for past sins. It deludes itself by believing that in order to become spiritual it must place itself “above” a material world it believes is imperfect and tainted. However Pisces must learn to trust and have faith while keeping its feet firmly planted in the physical, material world. 

Pisces rules the ocean, the source of all life on this water planet. It teaches us that like so many drops of water in the ocean, we are all individuals and at the same time we are all one. Pisces challenges us to find a balance between defining the boundaries of our identity and physical experience, and dissolving our self-hood and merging into oneness. Pisces asks us to be aware of our connection to humanity as we live our individual lives.Pisces rules mystical experiences where the boundaries that define us and our material reality become foggy or hazy. Spiritual practices fall in this realm, including meditation, prayer, and vision quests. In these practices we merge into oneness and connect with Source. Pisces also rules sleep and our dream world, our subconscious and the collective unconscious, karma and spiritual debts. Dream analysis, past life regression, hypnotherapy, and other methods of accessing the other-than-conscious mind fall under its jurisdiction.


This final sign of the zodiac governs the final stage of life, when that which is corporal or material falls away, dies, and dissolves. The physical realm is transcended and we return as spirit to Source. Pisces teaches us to let go and have faith. The key phrase for Pisces is “I Believe.”

The symbol for Pisces is two fish swimming in opposite directions, symbolizing the struggle to reconcile the polarity of the material and spiritual worlds. Pisces asks us to balance and integrate our spiritual selfwith our physical existence in the material world.

Colors for Pisces are lavender and aquamarine. Platinum is its metal. The gem for Pisces is amethyst. Water lilies and lavender are its flowers. Parts of the body ruled by Pisces are the feet and toes, lymph and white blood cells. Fish, whales and dolphins are Pisces animals. Archetypes for Pisces include artists, religious pilgrims and spiritual seekers, slaves, beggars and the poor, drug addicts and alcoholics, social and welfare workers. Sanctuaries, hospitals, charities, convents and monasteries, prisons and penal colonies are Pisces places.

“When people go within and connect with themselves, they realize they are connected to the universe and they are connected to all living things.”


                                                               – Armand Dimele

Neptune, Planetary Ruler of Pisces

Pisces is ruled by the planet Neptune. This large planet is surrounded by a thick atmosphere composed of gases, water and ice. Neptune’s atmosphere is known for its active weather patterns and storms, driven by the strongest winds of any planet in the solar system. Neptune is named for the Roman god of the sea. Its glyph is the sea god’s trident.
Neptune spends approximately 14 years in each sign of the zodiac, taking about 168 years to orbit the Sun. Considered the second transpersonal planet, it’s transit through a sign affects an entire generation, and represents their idealistic wish to rise up to a higher plane of existence.
Neptune was discovered in 1846 when it was in the final degrees of the sign of Aquarius. Soon afterward it entered its own sign of Pisces and the United States entered into Civil War, in large part due to collective efforts to end slavery.
Neptune also symbolizes the need to experience suffering in order to atone for our sins and become more compassionate and empathetic towards others. This is referred to as the “path to redemption.” This path to redemption often creates victim/savior compulsions and significant psychological problems for us.
Ultimately Neptune directs us to have compassion for ourselves without martyrdom. It asks us to form universal emotional connections with others through hope, faith, forgiveness and unconditional love. Through sacrifice we redeem ourselves, transcend our material existence, and are reborn again into the human condition transfigured.

Neptune in Pisces 

Neptune was in the sign of Pisces during 1848-1863. Since then it has traveled full circle around the Sun and is once again in the sign of Pisces, where it will stay until 2025.
What can we expect during this 14 year transit of Neptune in Pisces? What collective experiences will we have that will deepen our empathy, compassion and universal love? How do we need to retreat from the material world to revitalize and replenish our connection to our soul?What spiritual practices will support our own spiritual development? Use this 14 year period to create a deeper sense of your own inner divinity and connection to all of humanity.
“Compassion is more important than intellect in calling forth the love that the work of peace needs . . .”

                                                                      – Betty Williams 
Celestial Events
The Month Ahead
As the Sun moves into Pisces it conjoins Neptune, Chiron, and Mars and Mercury. Our conscious awareness is focused upon the grief and suffering in the world and our spiritual connection to all of humanity. The preponderance of planets in water signs in the ingress chart may producenebulous feelings of loss, confusion, and a lack of will or means to affect change.
Our collective fears around being spiritually centered, flowing and adaptive, and transcendent of the material world are illuminated. We are challenged to face our own fears of pain and devastation, of being victimized or martyred. Create practical structure and organization in your life to cope with the stress of living in a changing world. Ground your fears in reality and contain extreme emotions to stay balanced.
We are asked to take action in charitable ways. Show compassion and forgiveness for others. Engage with your environment with sensitivity. Communicate with empathy and sympathy. Find spiritual meaning in your day to day experiences.
 Mercury Retrograde in Pisces


Mercury will station retrograde on February 23rd at 20 degrees Pisces. It will move backwards in its retrograde motion, and conjoin the Sun on March 3rd at 14 degrees Pisces. Mercury will continue moving retrograde until March 17th, when it stations direct at 6 degrees Pisces. At that time Mercury will traverse its path in Pisces in forward motion once again, giving us another opportunity to interact with others in our environment in more flowing, adaptable, and forgiving ways.

Mercury retrograde in Pisces asks us to reflect on our spiritual connection to humanity. Are you sensitive and empathetic to the needs of others? Do you feel connected to other people, sensing we are all one, in the “same boat?” How can you communicate and interact with others in more compassionate ways? Use empathy and intuition when communicating.Forgive yourself and others, have faith in life, and go with the flow.

As Mercury conjoins the Sun on March 3rd its  emotional sensitivity and unity consciousness will be infused with the Sun’s confidence, courage, and expressive power. Any visions or insights you have during your inner contemplations at this time will be instilled with creative potential for you to take out into the world and manifest in the months to come.

Chiron in Pisces

The asteroid Chiron has been traveling through the skies in close proximity to Neptune since April 2009. Chiron represents our potential as a Sacred Healer, once we heal ourselves from our own devastating wounds. Conjunct Neptune, its spiritual significance is amplified. When we move through our fears, heal our wounds, and extend forgiveness to those who harmed us, we show others how they can heal their own wounds and gain spiritual peace.
Chiron moved into the sign of Pisces in February 2011. It will remain in Pisces until February 2019. Chiron in Pisces represents being wounded, or having experienced devastation and loss as a result of having spiritual faith, of finding spiritual meaning in the material world.
People who have their natal Chiron in Pisces often have deep fears, even phobias of being spiritual. They have lost faith and trust in the world. As much as they want to reunite with the all inclusive consciousness of oneness, they fear the loss of their personal individuality, emotional pain and confusion, and the chaos in their lives that might ensue. Their task, like the fishes swimming in opposite directions, is to balance and integrate their spiritual nature with their experience of living in the physical world.
While Chiron transits the sign of Pisces all of us will have opportunities to reconcile and resolve our fears about our spiritual nature. We can practice new ways to live in balance, allowing our spiritual values to flow into our actions, and infusing our material lives with spiritual purpose.
New Moon in Pisces
A New Moon occurs when the Sun and the Moon conjoin overhead from our perspective on Earth. This represents the fusion of our outer consciousness and awareness, symbolized by the Sun, with our inner emotional and unconscious self, symbolized by the Moon. This is a fertile time for new beginnings, for sowing the seeds of your new projects and endeavors.
The next New Moon will be on Monday March 11th at 12:51 p.m. (PDT). This New Moon will be at 21 degrees Pisces, conjunct Venus and Mars. Neptune, Chiron, and retrograde Mercury will also be in the sign of Pisces. This is an opportunity to create new beginnings that are spiritual, flowing, adaptable and forgiving. What old belief systems are keeping you enslaved and need changing? What do you need to forgive? How do you connect to your inner spirituality and grace? How can you receive compassionate insight from a spiritual source and share it to others? 
The area of your astrological chart where 21 degrees Pisces falls represents the area of your life where you can become more spiritual, where you can create new ways to immerse yourself in Source, receive insight, and connect with all of humanity.
You may wish to set some new goals or create Pisces affirmations for yourself on March 11th. Examples are: “I have faith and surrender to the flow of life.” “I am one with all that is.” “I am guided by the light of spirit within.”
You will begin to see evidence of the seeds you sow on this New Moon as they come to fruition on the following Full Moon in Libra on March 27th. This Full Moon will reward you with new ways you can create more balance and harmony in your life and relationships.
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

                                                           – Pierre Teilhard de Chardin


Rugby players in a scrumby Katrina Purdy 02/13/13

Two years ago my 32 year old,very healthy step brother, Stephen, unexpectedly collapsed. Needless to say, everyone that knew him was stunned because he IS very athletic and healthy—at the time he was playing rugby—a rough and tumble contact sport. Then, his heart stopped! Fortunately, the EMTs were on site; they rushed over to help him. They quickly got the AED out to administer, but, my brother started breathing on his own.

We soon learned that Stephen had a genetic heart condition called “arrhythmogenic right ventricular cardiomyopathy”: a rare inherited heart-muscle disease that is a cause of sudden death in athletes and young people. Causative mutations in genes encoding desmosomal (the site of adhesion between two cells) proteins have been identified and the disease is regarded as a genetically HEART INJUREDdetermined myocardial dystrophy. Arrhythmogenic right ventricular cardiomyopathy (ARVC) affects at least 1 in 1000, is a leading cause of sudden cardiac death in people under age 35 years old, and accounts for up to 10% of deaths from undiagnosed cardiac disease in folks under the age of 65 years old. The left ventricle is so frequently involved as to support the adoption of the broad term arrhythmogenic cardiomyopathy. Clinical diagnosis is still challenging, but can be achieved by demonstrating function and structure changes of the right ventricle, repolarization abnormalities and electrocardiogram depolarization, fibrofatty, ventricular and arrhythmias, replacement through endomyocardial biopsy. Although specific, the standardized diagnostic criteria lack sensitivity for early disease and their primary application remains in establishing the diagnosis in probands—the first family member to be diagnosed. Cascade genetic screening of family members of gene-positive probands allows the identification of asymptomatic carriers (a healthy person that has contracted the disease, but who displays no symptoms) who would require lifelong follow-up due to the age-related gene factor.

Specialists can see the rare, inherited DNA mutation by comparing DNA markers between relatives. HEART DOCTORStephen’s physician, Dr. James Coromilas, a cardiologist with expertise in electrophysiology (the study of the heart’s electrical system) helped my family maneuver through the process of scientifically documenting this case. Dr. Coromilas is also Chief of Cardiovascular Disease at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital in New Brunswick NJ and is Director of Clinical Cardiac Electrophysiology. He had my step father take a swab test of his DNA. The data from that simple swab indicated that he has the same DNA markers as his son, Stephen’s. Dr. Coromilas’ opinion was that the mutation probably goes back many generations.

If my step father was a “young athlete” he would have a higher risk of arrhythmogenic right ventricular cardiomyopathy than anyone in the general population. With aging comes lower risk and since my step father, Glenn, is over 40 his risk is now the same as the general population. However, until you or your offspring are tested, your children would be cautious to avoid high impact and/or highly athletic activity such as rugby or football.

Stephen had to have a defibrillator put into his chest in case his heart stopped again. He is still very active, but, he doesn’t play rugby anymore.HEART HEALTHY

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The following is my Unity of the Valley sermon from February 3, 2013:

The Art of Allowing by Rev. Sherry Lady

busycalendarOver the past year, the circumstances of my life have made it necessary to make changes in how I do things.  I’ve had to stop being someone who thinks they have to be the one to make things happen, get with the program.  I’ve had to stop pushing hard to fill the spaces of my days with the zillion things I love to do on top of what I’ve agreed to do, volunteered to do, or have been asked to do.  It hasn’t been easy.

I have seen the days of my years fly by and the number of days in my past increase in number with tremendous speed and my bucket list of things that need doing filling faster than I can keep up with.  Alongside that particular bucket is the one that holds the list of the things I still want to do and many of those are things I always wanted to do but never got around to – yet.  I know many of you can relate.

I have had to “unfill” the pages of my days and let them get filled from another direction.  This doesn’t mean I  have become passive or inactive,  Far from it.  It just means I have to know what it is that needs doing, then ask – and trust – the universe to bring it to me in more reasonable amounts and speeds.  (Lucy and the chocolate wrapping line)  I had to choose to have the events be more like savory wine-tasting unfoldment.  First lift the glass, let it be filled – only part way – savor the aroma of the energy and sip slowly to get the full body of flavor.    (I was surprised when this metaphor came to me because I do not like wine – any kind.)

Charles Schultz (Peanuts strip):  “I think  I’ve discovered the secret of life.  You just hang around until you get used to it.”

I think I am finally “getting used to it.”  The most useful and productive way to live is to know that:  Everything you could ever want always works out – if you will only let it.

There has been some frustration in this, especially when it became evident that even with that knowing I often felt like I can’t keep up with it all.  I can’t find room for everything in my life – the things that need to be done and the things I want to do.  They are outrunning me.   It brings to mind that saying, by the man who says to bystanders as he runs swiftly down the street, “Did you see them?  I am their leader and I don’t know which way they went.”  The ducks in my row were being very mischievous and wandering all over the place.

One day, in the quiet of my car, in a parking lot where I was waiting for someone, I gave myself a good talking to and then, when the answers were somewhat garbled, I said to myself, “Self – there must be a way to do this better.”  Then I took a deep breath and got still and let Spirit do the talking.  Spirit’s voice has a way of sounding a lot like mine, but the words are none that I could have come up with on my own, so I know it’s something else.  Then I breathed again, using my favorite form of breathing – Ki breathing, which I learned from my favorite meditation teacher.

I heard “allow this moment to teach you the better way for your life today.”  The word “allow” was the key – allow.  Allow this and every moment to be the one in which you are fully present.  What needs to be done by me now?  And in that moment it came to me.  A nap!  So I did that – for about 20 minutes.  It felt so good that I knew I would “allow” that to happen again sometime.


Then the person I was waiting for tapped on the window and the thoughts came flooding about what was to be done next and next and next and would that be ok with them, and did they need anything…..I felt my body tense up. “Breathe!  You are here now, there is only this moment ”words I read somewhere –  and let’s make it smooth and fun. So I did, with more lighthearted conversation, more laughter at amusing things, and taking an alternative route just for the fun of it.   It felt so good I let that be the pattern for the rest of the evening.  And, the next day, and the next evening.  When I shared it with an especially influential spiritual teacher of mine she said “that is the art of allowing.”  “I’m in,” I replied.

Alice Roosevelt LongworthAlice Roosevelt Longworth gave good advice: She said – “I have a simple philosophy – fill what’s empty, empty what’s full and scratch where it itches.


I don’t know who said this, but I’ve come to like it: “The Art of Allowing is deliberately choosing thoughts that feel good, with an ear to how the thought feels as it evolves within you.  It is wanting so much to feel good, that no matter what you are doing or what life requires of you, you are deliberately looking for the best feeling thought that you can find.  Then you practice it until it becomes a sort of natural feeling within you.  Then that which you want flows to you.”

Once you understand the power of though, you will joyously experience your own freedom to express who you are and to be as you are – and all the time you will be willing to allow all others the same freedom.  As more of us reach this state of being, it will be a time of peace and a time of contentment and a time of wondrous joy upon our Planet Earth.

Allow your inner being to be your guide.  Take it with you everywhere you go.  If you do, the food you eat will be received perfectly by the cells of your body.  Every word you speak will benefit someone.  “Allowing” is always having your inner Being present.  The everything else is well orchestrated perfectly by the Law of Attraction and attracted to you are the things that are yours to do – and no one else’s.

Letting go enough to allow life to fill your cup is not easy. It can be like a man named Jack who accidentally got too close to the edge of a cliff and fell. On the way down he grabbed a branch, which temporarily stopped his fall. (How many times in your life have you felt as if you were dangling and just barely hanging on – I have)  But, the valley floor was almost a thousand feet down.Guy on cliff

He couldn’t hang on to the branch forever and there was no way to climb up the steep cliff, so he began yelling for help, hoping that someone passing by would come to his rescue.

He yelled for a long time and was about to give up when he heard a voice “Jack.  Can you hear me?

“Yes, yes, I can hear you.  I am down here.”

I can see you.  Are you ok?

Yes, but who are you and where are you?

I am the Lord, Jack.  I am everywhere.

You mean GOD?

That’s me.

Please help me.  I promise that if you get me down from here I’ll stop everything and become a really good person.

Easy on promises Jack.  Let’s get you to safety, then we can talk.  Now here’s what I want you to do.

I’ll do anything, God.

Okay – let go of the branch. 


I said, let go of the branch.  Just trust me.  Let go.

There was a long silence.  Finally Jack replied:  HELP! IS ANYONE ELSE UP THERE?”

The deeper, and spiritual aspect of allowing has to do with trusting – and trusting some more – being patient and having faith that what you want to manifest, create and experience will show up in your life as it is meant to – let them unfold without having to manipulate, dominate or control other people or situations to make them happen.  If you have a tendency to be a control-freak at times, this can be incredibly challenging.

Allowing takes faith, patience and trust – I offer this once again. These three things are essential for your own peace of mind and well-being, but are often not the things we focus on.  Allowing is an art and it often goes against the grain, running contrary to society’s norms and pressures.  Remember – we’re human beings – not human doings.

Here are a few things to think about and practice as you being to live from the place of allowing:

  1. Ask yourself how you relate to the concept of allowing. Can you relate to it at all.  Can you allow others to be who they are and not let them have free rent in your life, but honor and support them in being who they are?
  2. Pay attention to what you focus on in your biggest aspirations.  Focus on fulfillment rather than success.
  3. Create an allowing practice:  prayer ,meditation, quiet reflection.
  4. Reach out to others for support, guidance and feedback
  5. Have fun with all of your life.

So – have I had to give up anything?  No – in fact I have found that I can actually accomplish more and be less tired and more satisfied when I allow my inner knowing to guide me—naps, side-trips, and so much fun watching what comes next that, without efforting, my goals are reached. People ask me:  How do you do so much.  I don’t.  I just respond to what comes my way – allowing works.

Again – anything and everything you could ever want always works out if you only let it.

But even bigger – and more challenging is making peace with what is – regardless.  That is allowing in its highest, most blessed form of participating in life.  Letting go, and letting God,


Story:  “The Carpenter.”    (Allowing at its most profound expression)


 Hear Sherry in person at Unity of the Valley, 3912 Dillard Rd, Eugene, OR 97405, call for times (541) 345-9913.

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Conflict, The Upside of The Downside

Conflict is a royal pain. It ties us up in knots, it stops the flow of business and can clog up entire workplaces eventually turning them into bitter, misaligned organizations. Companies in serious conflict gradually loose status with their employees and the community they serve. It is ironic that even though […]

Online Presence – Do I Really Need One?

Building an online presence can be a lot of work, some of it unnecessary.  First, it is important to know if you need an online presence and if you do, where your online presence would be of most benefit – your own website, Facebook, LinkedIn or even Healer Today.

When is an online presence unnecessary?

It is unnecessary to have an online presence if your current clients are the one in five American Adults who live on the other side of the the digital divide, (those who do not use the Internet). This less than one-year old statistic refers to: seniors, those who prefer to speak in Spanish, adults with less than a high-school education and those with an annual income of under $30,000. If the preceding people are not in your target market, then consider an online presence of utmost importance.

The only real time that I can think of when a web presence is absolutely unnecessary is when you have more clients than you can handle.  At this point, you don’t need to do anything different.

Not in that place?  It’s time to plan your web presence…

Where should your web presence be?

This is the tougher answer.  Being the owner of a website, I lean towards a website because of the control and options I have on my website.  That being said, it is costly to start up a professional website done by people who know what they are doing.  You can build an entire website on a Facebook business page and can run almost anything from Facebook that you can from your own website and sometimes it is simpler.

  • You can run polls, send out mailers, market events, run specials, and engage in conversations from Facebook better than you can from most websites.
  • If you do not have the funds to start and keep up a website, then by all means, start your web presence on Facebook.
  • You have the option to make your Facebook business page local.
  • You can offer specials that show only to the people you want them to. You can also email events and special invites to people who are not on Facebook from Facebook.
  • You can run both a business and a personal social presence from Facebook and it is all free.
  • That being said, I highly recommend you hire a Facebook page designer who will make you look like a million bucks.  After all, what you do is heal people, not design technical sites – leave it to the Facebook designers, you will have fewer headaches and a WOW presence.

According to a study from ROI Research 59% of respondents said LinkedIn is their most important professional network account.  LinkedIn is where people have a greater tendency to believe what you post and get the sense that you are for real.  This statistic suggests that if you want to promote yourself to businesses and professionals, LinkedIn might be the better choice and it’s still free.

Healer Today is a valuable resource and markets for you, they receive quite a few more hits per day than most of us do in a month.  That means that we can take advantage of this hard-working resource to promote our online presence and send business in our direction.  Be sure that your profile is up to date, your categories are correct, you send out articles and set up promotional trainings with MAx.  It is all about bringing you more exposure because you are worth it!

If you are really serious and don’t want to go the website route, start with either Facebook or LinkedIn and then add the others after you feel comfortable with the one you have.  It takes time to get these both up and running and they require constant attention. If you want traffic you have to keep your sites evolving and current.  Static post card sites are a thing of the past. I hire a lot of my work out to maintain a constant presence and it is usually under $5 a day to stay in the public’s eye.

Again, if you have all the clients you need, you don’t need to finish this article.  If you are looking for those clients, find ways to engage them online.  Offer workshops, incentives and fun things. The wider the reach to your specific market, the greater the opportunity for engagement. I spend probably 65% of my day marketing.  This article is marketing, it takes time to research and make sure I’m current and my content is useful. I make sure everything I offer is strategic.  It has to fill a void you have that I can fill better than anyone else.

Please let me know what your concerns are about having an online presence and I will gladly respond, after all, it’s engagement!  That is where the fun part is.


Emotional Freedom Techniques shown effective for PTSD

The Journal of Nervous and Mental Diseases has recently published an article titled:

Psychological Trauma Symptom Improvement in Veterans Using Emotional Freedom Techniques: A Randomized Controlled Trial

Since I am one of the coaches in the on-going research trial, I’m very excited to share the news in the abstract below.  The results I continue to see with the veterans that I work with are breath taking.  What a wonderful, simple, and life-changing tool EFT is!


This study examined the effect of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), a brief exposure therapy combining cognitive and somatic elements, on posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and psychological distress symptoms in veterans receiving mental health services. Veterans meeting the clinical criteria for PTSD were randomized to EFT (n = 30) or standard of care wait list (SOC/WL; n = 29). The EFT intervention consisted of 6-hour–long EFT coaching sessions concurrent with standard care. The SOC/WL and EFT groups were compared before and after the intervention (at 1 month for the SOC/WL group and after six sessions for the EFT group). The EFT subjects had significantly reduced psychological distress (p < 0.0012) and PTSD symptom levels (p < 0.0001) after the test. In addition, 90% of the EFT group no longer met PTSD clinical criteria, compared with 4% in the SOC/WL group. After the wait period, the SOC/WL subjects received EFT. In a within-subjects longitudinal analysis, 60% no longer met the PTSD clinical criteria after three sessions. This increased to 86% after six sessions for the 49 subjects who ultimately received EFT and remained at 86% at 3 months and at 80% at 6 months. The results are consistent with that of other published reports showing EFT’s efficacy in treating PTSD and comorbid symptoms and its long-term effects.


Empty Nest Syndrom





Dear MAx,

I am interested in knowing how to deal with the emptiness and lack of drive when your last child has moved out.



Dear Janice,

Your letter didn’t offer too much about your situation other then you are suffering from “empty nest syndrome”.  Whether you are part of a couple that has been parenting together, or have had the daunting responsibility as a single parent, when the last child moves out, you have entered the twilight zone of life which involves “getting to know yourself” again.

Even though men are affected by empty nest syndrome, women are more likely to experience this life transition more strongly. Children leaving home usually coincides with other significant events happening in a woman’s life: menopause, caring for elderly parents, pre-retirement planning, changes in appearance and energy.  Even without having children to leave home, this is the time of life that women are starting to move from their caring of others stage of life into their own wisdom.

Most importantly, you have experienced a series of major losses in your life: your child(ren) out of the house leaving empty room(s) with many memories; being the “mom” always there to prepare meals, complain about dirty clothes all over, lovingly listening and guiding. You are no longer the maid, the counselor, the chauffeur, the event planner; you have lost all these roles. These are all losses that you experienced as your last child walked out of your front door and into their own front door. These losses can bring up feelings of sadness and a disorientation, which if not addressed, can turn into depression. Feeling ‘sad’ is normal for this transitional life event.

Unfortunately, if the event of the child leaving home was hostile, full of drama and chaos, this grief can result in severe depression. Monitoring your reactions and how long the grieving period extends is important to help you regain a sense of self. If you find yourself crying excessively, you are feeling that you are no longer useful, you isolate from family and friends, and/or you are missing work, consider seeking professional help to help to reground yourself.

If the separation of the child leaving home was healthy, after an appropriate time of identifying and grieving through the losses, you will embrace a new sense of independence, begin to redefine a new identity with a different sense of purpose, and develop a confident sense of happiness and joy. You may even decide to downsize yEmpty Nestour living space, redecorate your home, or repurpose the vacated room

Consider these suggestions for recovering from empty nest syndrome:

-Take time to acknowledge and experience the grief and losses happening in your life. Seek professional help if you are unable to work the grief through yourself.

-Honor the awesome mom role you have fulfilled, and embrace the new role that you will now start to create.

-Work on developing an adult-adult relationship with your child(ren): set new boundaries, create new traditions, communicate with love and nonjudgement.

-Redirect the time, money, and energy you used parenting toward redefining your own life: explore hobbies, leisure activities, career pursuits, educational opportunities, and, if you have a spouse, get to know him again.

As you can see, Janice, just as seasons change, human beings transition from one life point to another. You seem to be stuck in a twilight zone of your summer season that is disorientating to you. Don’t be afraid, step into your autumn to get acquainted with the new you: a time that is warm, colorful, and, now with your life experiences and accumulated wisdom, the possibilities are endless.

Enjoy Life


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A Call to Action | HealerTodayCALL TO ACTION


Confused about health care?

The State of Oregon is currently in the process of defining new ways to deliver health services at a lower cost. Cuts are sure to be made: for example: “less emergency room visits”. Alternative care is in jeopardy: for example: midwifery. Changes may not be so good: for example: LCSWs delivering addiction counseling vs addiction counselors.

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