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10 things you didn’t know about Tapping

Tapping, or to give it its proper name, EFT, is taking off in the world of complementary therapy.  

Much thanks to Sara Maude for this quick read into an expansive subject (her link at end of post).

Here are 10 things you didn’t know about this incredible technique.

1.  Tapping instantly calms you down

 When we are stressed, we engage the sympathetic side of our nervous system, leading us to produce high levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. Tapping on the acupressure points while thinking about how we feel sends an electro chemical message to the brain to switch off the stress response and tune into the parasympathetic side of the nervous system, the side linked with our relaxation response, giving us an instant sense of calm.

2.  Tapping works wonders on anxiety                        

Tapping soothes the body, engages the parasympathetic side of the nervous system responsible for relaxation, and fires electro chemical messages to the brain that everything is OK, taking the body off emergency alert.  It can be used in the moment to deal with situations that can trigger anxiety, to to unhook anxiety disorders and panic attacks, or to clear anxiety associated with a future event.

3.  Tapping dissolves your pain

Pain often has an underlying emotional link to it which is addressed through Tapping.  Tapping releases endorphin, the bodies’ natural pain killer and studies have shown that Tapping alone achieves pain relief far beyond that found in a jar of pills.

4.  Tapping reduces stress levels

When we get stressed, the body produces excess levels of cortisol.  The brain doesn’t know the difference between real and perceived stress so when any feeling of stress comes on, the body gets ready to fight or flight.  Tapping significantly decreases cortisol levels, allowing us to feel calmer, more relaxed and in control.

5.  Tapping helps you lose weight

That’s right, if you want to shift those pounds, get Tapping.  Tapping tackles cravings, helps you tune into what your body needs, combats the emotional reason you may be eating and improves energy levels.

6.  Tapping works on babies and children                                  

Tapping on children and babies who are upset works like magic.  Up to the age of 6 children are constantly absorbing information.  Because they don’t possess the cognitive ability re frame things that may upset them, a few rounds of Tapping can clear any upset.  Children as young as two can be taught to tap on themselves and children of any age can be tapped on.  Far more effective and healthy than being given sweets to calm them!

7.  Tapping helps clear your phobias

A study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology in 2003 showed that one Tapping session with 35 participants was enough to demonstrate a significant decrease in specific phobias, for instance the phobia of spiders, when compared to conventional treatments like deep breathing. In follow-up tests 6 to 9 months later, those who had experienced Tapping reported even better improvements.

8.  Tapping positively modifies your DNA

A study conducted by the Heartmath Institute showed that when a person evoked strong positive emotions like love and appreciation through practices like Tapping, their DNA unwound and increased in length. Negative emotions, on the other hand, caused strands of their DNA to shorten and in some cases disappear. In other words, working with your emotions allows you to change your genetic make-up and your life.

9.  Tapping dramatically alleviates Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

A study published in 2005 examined the effects of Tapping on people who had been involved in car accidents and were displaying post traumatic stress symptoms such as flash backs, nightmares, panic attacks and anxiety.  Results demonstrated that Tapping diminished these symptoms.

10.  Tapping significantly reduces depression                                    

In a Swedish study, fibromyalgia patients who were given Tapping exercises reported a 29% improvement in depression symptoms within just 8 weeks.  Where anti depressants mask the problem, EFT extinguishes a dysfunctional conditioned response and deals with the symptoms of depression such as irritable mood, loss of interest in activities and lack of motivation achieving results that cannot be accomplished through conventional treatment.

Guest Author – Sara Maude,

Have you heard about the Pain Relief Wonder From Down Under?

Did you know your body can be reset so it can heal itself?

Not long ago I was in terrible shape. But now I have a NEW body – that WORKS! And when I do goof it up, it fixes itself (what a concept) without me needing to run to some practitioner or other to get my body working right again. That one change has freed up a lot of time, and money for me.

So what is this amazing Pain Relief Wonder From Down Under??! It’s a soft-tissue release therapy that re-sets the body to heal itself. It’s like re-booting your computer, only way cooler, cuz your body is alive. And from the very first class I started seeing what many would call miracles.

My first was an older man with a severe cervical disc herniation. Guess what? His surgery was canceled because of… what’s it called??? It called Bowenwork, named after the man who developed this Wonder From Down Under – because Bowen. Works! I was so impressed I decided to focus on Bowenwork. I help people reset their bodies so they can heal. It makes me look amazing, and my clients are so happy because they feel good again, too.

I watched the power of Bowenwork incubate through my practice until I saw so many people get healed that I finally decided to not only be a practitioner, but a certified instructor of Bowenwork. The word about Bownework has to spread!


Blackout-620x541Dear MAx,

My husband and I have only been married three years, I adore him and the little family we have started together. To the outside world we look like a happy couple with everything going for us—good jobs, nice home, great family and friends. The dark secret is that while my husband doesn’t drink all the time, when he does drink he goes into a paranoid-type violent blackout that totally disrupts our life. This last blackout ended with a knock down fight in a parking lot while I was trying to take the keys away from him. The police ended up arresting me instead of him because they “witnessed” me hitting him (in self-defense) and let him drive home! Eventually everything was weeded out, but at the cost of our marriage, our financial security, and probably psychological damage to our young son. He continues to deny that he has any kind of a drinking problem and says that he doesn’t even remember what happened that night. Even before the arrest I had sought out counseling; he doesn’t feel he needs any help. What is going on with this man?!


Dear Abby,

I am so sorry you had to have this very tragic experience. It was fortunate that you were already connected with a therapist so you had some professional support to guide you through all the events that happened.

It is difficult with the information provided what level of alcoholic your husband might be. The National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism identifies five subtypes of alcoholics: 19.5% are “functional”, 31.5% are “young adult”, 21% are “young antisocial, 19% are “intermediate familial” with mental illness, and only 9% are “chronic severe” stereotypical of the low-bottom alcoholic. Other experts in the field estimate that 75-90% of alcoholics are high-functioning. Treating high-functioning alcoholics is very challenging for addiction counselors because these individuals maintain their lives so well.

Your husband may be a high functioning alcoholic: someone that is in denial of being an alcoholic, has a well respected professional and personal life, lives a double life appearing to the world to be managing life well, and has not experienced tangible losses and/or consequences from drinking. Or he may not, an alcohol assessment by a professional could start to establish a diagnosis.

My biggest concern would be the blackouts and the fact that he claims not to remember what happens during the blackouts. A person in a blackout does not loose consciousness. Blackouts are often caused by rapidly consuming large amounts of alcohol that can interfere with the ability of the brain to form new memories. Because alcohol does not interfere with memories made, and information learned, prior to becoming intoxicated, outside observers, like police officers, are often unaware of the person’s true level of intoxication. A person in a blackout can still engage in goal-directed, voluntary, complicated behaviors like driving cars.

Contrary to some belief’s, blackouts alone is not an indicator that a person is addicted to alcohol. Research suggests evaluating alcohol dependence on just blackouts may be misleading; all the other signs of problem drinking must be taken into consideration to indicate the level of problem with alcohol.

Blackouts always need to be a cause for concern as they represent a dangerous state of impairment for the drinker as well as being a danger to themselves and others. In addition to an alcohol assessment, a complete physical would help to rule out any other potential physical causes for the blackouts.

Abbey, I can only imagine how confusing and frustrated this must be for you to be living through. Your husband’s denial will keep him from seeking treatment. You need to continue to work with your therapist to understand yourself and your own behavior of why you may be staying in an abusive relationship. And, take the time to educate yourself about alcoholism and blackouts. There are many good websites with research information, visit support meetings to understand what others are going through, and, most of all, always keep good boundaries for the safety of you and your child.

Be well on your journey.


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Aquarius: Innovative Visionary for a New World

Aquarius: Innovative Visionary for a New World
“True originality consists not in a new manner but in a new vision.”

                                                                     – Edith Wharton
 Saturday January 19th the Sun will leave the grounded, disciplined earth sign of Capricorn and enter the humanistic, innovative air sign of Aquarius. Each succeeding sign of the zodiac builds upon the foundation laid by the previous sign by rectifying or redirecting its energy. Aquarius turns it rational mind toward the future and seeks to reform and advance the achievements and constructs of Capricorn to benefit humanity. In the month ahead our consciousness will be directed toward group relationships and networking, altruism, social and political reform, and humanitarian causes.
The symbol for Aquarius is the Water Bearer, a figure carrying an urncontaining the waters of cosmic consciousness. From this urn flow rational thought, universal love, and equality for all humankind. Aquariuscelebrates the uniqueness of individuals. It is individualistic, original, even different and unusual. It is tolerant and inclusive of “fringe elements”, minorities and the disenfranchised.
“Question authority” is an Aquarian catchphrase. It does not accept a hierarchical separation of people, where individuals at the top have more rights and advantages than those below. Instead, Aquarius promotes a society built on a horizontal network of individuals, all being equal members and participants. Aquarius rules groups of like minded people coming together in this way to advance a common cause.
Although Aquarius loves humanity, it has difficulty in one-to-one relationships because of its emotional detachment. It can appear distant, disconnected, cerebral, awkward and unfeeling. Aquarius can often feel like an outsider, not fitting in and even feeling rejected by traditional, established society and conventions. 
Being a futuristic, idealistic, reform-minded visionary, Aquarius can also shock by shaking up conventional standards, or taking action in socially unacceptable ways. It can be rebellious, erratic in its behavior, and inflexible. Archetypes for Aquarius include the Anarchist, the Revolutionary or Rebel, and the Liberator. 

At its best, intellectual Aquarius is open minded, philosophic and scientific. It bestows reason, clarity, insight and invention. A key phrase for Aquarius is “I know”, descriptive of its lightening fast intuitive insight. Its brilliant mind quickly grasps abstract concepts, makes connections and recognizes patterns in thoughts and ideas.

Aquarius “thinks outside the box.” It breaks new ground in science and technology. Aquarius rules advances in computer technology, electronics, new sources of power, air travel and space exploration. Additional archetypes for Aquarius include the computer geek, the “mad scientist”, and the inventor.
Examples of Aquarian visionaries and inventors include Thomas Alva Edison, a pioneer in electric power generation and distribution and the creator of the light bulb. Edison’s natal Mercury, Sun and Neptune in Aquarius contributed to him becoming the fourth most prolific inventor in history. Albert Einstein had Jupiter and his North Node in Aquarius. Arevolutionary in the field of physics, his work lead to the development of quantum physics. Steve Jobs was an Aquarian innovator viewed by many as one of the greatest minds of the last century. Jobs had both Mercury and Chiron in Aquarius. A leader in the computer revolution, Jobs held unique visions of how computer technology could be used by the masses.
The color for Aquarius is bold electric blue. Its gem is aquamarine. Its metals are uranium and aluminum. Large birds such as the emu are Aquarian animals. Fruit trees and orchids are plants symbolic of Aquarius. Parts of the body ruled by Aquarius are the ankles and lower legs, the circulatory system and blood pressure.
“Remember always that you have not only the right to be an individual; you have the obligation to be one.”


                                                               – Eleanor Roosevelt 

Uranus, Ruler of Aquarius

Aquarius is ruled by the planet Uranus, known as the Great Awakener. It is the first of the planets in our solar system not visible to the naked eye which lie beyond the orbit of Saturn, and that we call the transpersonal planets. Uranus compels us to move beyond our ego identification and connect with the universe on a soul level.
Uranus was discovered in 1781. Its discovery coincided with political and social movements towards liberty around the world, including the American and French revolutions. Uranus represents the urge toward freedom, independence, originality and individuation. 
Mercury rules the lower mind’s cognitive processes, while Uranus rules the higher mind: intuition, innovation, and creative genius. Uranus connects us to the Mind of God from which all creative invention comes. Uranus as the “voice of God” symbolizes intuition in the form of lightening fast insights, bright ideas, and eureka moments.
Uranus bestows “divine discontent,” an inner urge that propels us towards our next growth opportunity, or towards greater personal freedom. It pushes us to create change and excitement in our life. 
Uranus is unpredictable. It rules sudden, unexpected changes of a radical and shocking nature that shake our foundations. It stops our world as if to say, “Things have to change!” The force of Uranus rushing through our lives and disrupting our routines can feel disquieting, unsettling, even traumatizing. Its purpose is to take down whatever structures have outlived their usefulness. It liberates us from the confines of convention and urges us to create anew. Earthquakes, tornadoes, hurricanes and the atomic bomb are ruled by Uranus.
On March 13, 2011 the planet Uranus began its seven year journey through the first sign of the zodiac, Aries. This period we are living in is a cosmic new beginning, ushering us into the 2000 year Age of Aquarius.
In the sign of Aries, Uranus encourages and inspires us to become more confident, self-aware, self-contained, and action oriented. It urges us to embrace our independent, pioneering, assertive energy and take risks in life. It fills us with new energy, vitality, courage and creativity as we explore this New Age of Aquarius.

“Know whatever comes unexpectedly to be a gift from God, which will surely serve you if you use it to the fullest.”
                                                                    – Brandon Bays in The Journey 

Celestial Events 


The Month Ahead
As the Sun moves into Aquarius it conjoins Mercury and trines retrograde Jupiter in Gemini. Our thinking mind is elevated and illuminated by higher consciousness, intuition and creative innovation. We can review our self limiting beliefs about life, and reflect on what we think about them with more emotional detachment and rationality. When Jupiter moves direct on January 30th we can then be more visionary, connected to Truth, and in sync with our desire to create change
The Sun and Mercury in Aquarius broadly square both the Moon in Taurus and Saturn in Scorpio.  Emotional attachment to the material world and reacting with deep emotional intensity to the changing world around us can get in the way of coming up with innovative solutions to our problems. Find peace and serenity in the natural world. Ground yourself in practical reality.
The Sun in Aquarius sextiles and disposits to Uranus in Aries. Our will to advance and reform our world in innovative ways is best expressed with confidence and courage which supports our pioneering efforts. Be a leader. Take action. Be the change you wish to see in the world.

New Moon in Aquarius

A New Moon occurs when the Sun and the Moon conjoin overhead from our perspective on Earth. This represents the fusion of our outer consciousness and awareness, symbolized by the Sun, with our inner emotional and unconscious self, symbolized by the Moon. This is a fertile time for new beginnings, for sowing the seeds of your new projects and endeavors.
The next New Moon will be on Saturday February 9th at 11:20 p.m. (PST). This New Moon will be at 21 degrees Aquarius squaring the Moon’s Nodes in Taurus and Scorpio. This is an opportunity to begin new projects that are innovative, humanitarian and life changing. Nurture the seeds of your hopes, dreams, and visions of the future with patience and practicality. Your goal is transformation and regeneration.  
The area of your astrological chart where 21 degrees Aquarius falls represents the area of your life where you can be more inventive, visionary, and open to change that creates more freedom in your life.What political, social and spiritual causes help you develop your uniqueness and individuality? How can you detach emotionally and be more objective, seeing yourself as an individual connected to all of humanity? In what ways can you network and work together with others to advance a common cause?
You may wish to set some new goals or create some Aquarian affirmations on February 9th. Examples are: “I connect with others in my community in rational, open-minded, friendly ways.” “I network with others in a spirit of equality to advance our common goals.” “I manifest my hopes and dreams for the future with innovation and intuition.”
You will begin to see evidence of the seeds you sow on this New Moon as they come to fruition on the following Full Moon in Virgo on February 25th. This Full Moon will reward you with the satisfaction of being of greater service in the world.
“Just as each snowflake is unique, so is each person. Your primary purpose in life is to experience life from one individual, unique point of view. You are an expression of Infinite Being as it experiences itself from all possible viewpoints.”


                                                           – Owen Waters