Meat and fish stocks are used almost universally in traditional cultures.  Properly prepared bone broths are extremely nutritious, containing the minerals of bone, cartilage, marrow and vegetables as electrolytes, in a form that is easy to assimilate. Acidic wine or vinegar added during cooking helps to draw minerals, particularly calcium, magnesium and potassium into the broth. The gelatin in the broth has been used for centuries for intestinal disorders. Gelatin also seems to be of use in the treatment of many chronic disorders from anemia to diabetes. Other important components of the broth are the cartilage which is beneficial for cancer and bone disorders.  Why take a glucosamine supplement when you can get it cheaply and in a more nutrient dense state from bone broth? Bone broths are the basis of many fine cuisines (e.g., French cuisine).

If you ask the butcher for soup bones, you will get the bone with lots of meat on it for the soup. If you ask for dog bones (my preference), you will get just the bone which will make a nice clear broth that you can use in soups, stews, sauces or just consume directly.  I have found that you will get much more out of beef bones than chicken, although we always use the chicken carcass for broth after eating a whole chicken. So, the chicken bones can be great for someone just wanting to add more nutrition to the diet, while the beef bones (from grass fed or sustainably grown beef) are best for therapeutic uses or for someone who is “health challenged”.  Remember the term “Jewish Penicillin”? This was referring to the healing benefits of bone broth. Consuming bone broth will also help with daily hydration.
Having a crock pot is really helpful as you can leave the bones to stew overnight without any worries. Of course, if you are at home, a regular stockpot will work fine. Clear stock will last 5 days in the refrigerator, but several months in your freezer or deep freeze. When you refrigerate your broth, you will notice the copious amounts of gelatin the next day. THIS IS A GOOD THING!!! Do not worry because it will turn liquid upon reheating. Of course, adding herbs, vegetables, sea salt and seasonings will make this broth palatable by itself. When added to sauces (e.g., spaghetti sauce) it will blend right in adopting the flavors of the sauce.









Put the bones in your crock pot or stock pot
Add water to cover the bones.  Add 2 TBS vinegar or cooking wine
Simmer for 12 hours or as long as 72 hours (the longer the time the more nutrients you will glean)
Next put the broth through a strainer to get out all the small pieces of bone
Freeze, refrigerate or season for use! EASY and NUTRITIOUS!



Written by Ellen Syversen, www.pathwaysforhealth.net, 541-912-8624.




Dear MAx,

What do you know about hoarders? My sister, 32 years old, is a hoarder. When she was living by herself it was one thing, but now she is married with three children. My middle niece often stays at our house—I think she likes being in a clean house that doesn’t have path ways to where she needs to go. Her husband has a job that gives him the choice to be gone, so he is gone a lot of the time just to get away from the situation. I need to know what I can do, not only for my sister, but for her children.



Dear Diana,

Recently hoarding has been highlighted by a TV reality show about hoarders. The show has helped relatives recognize the seriousness of their loved one hoarding things, the psychological influences on children, and the health hazards endangering everyone living in the home.

Based on my research of hoarding, it appears that serious research has just begun in the past few years. Until then, the condition was classified as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), schizophrenia, and/or anxiety disorder. This is about to change with the new Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) due out in May 2013; “Hoarding” will have a code of its own. It is estimated that approximately less than 1% of the US population is affected by this disorder.

The new classification was recognized, in great part, by recent brain research conducted by the Anxiety Disorders Center and Center for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy within the Institute of Living in Hartford, Conn, and published in the August, 2012, Archives of General Psychiatry: two brain regions, the anterior cingulate cortex and the insula, go on high alert when hoarders need to decide whether to keep something or throw it away. This brain activity does not happen in normal brains, nor OCD brains.

It is very difficult, and embarrassing, for family members to experience their loved one’s hoarding behaviors. The urge might be to run in and just clean it up. Wrong! Some don’ts of helping:

-don’t start removing things, or forcing the hoarder to remove things;

-don’t hire someone to clean out and clean up the environment; and,

-don’t become confrontational about the clutter and filth.

It is important to recognize that hoarding may be a symptom of deeper issues. To help your hoarder with love:

-do become an empathetic and a good listener;

-do help the hoarder understand how their life is being affected; and,

-do encourage the hoarder to seek professional treatment.

Yes, hoarding is a treatable condition. According to Dr. Ruth Wolever, Duke University School of Medicine: “As with most mental health disorders, the two primary methods used to treat hoarding are psychotherapy and medications. Evidence suggests that cognitive-behavioral therapy, which is designed to help the patient think and behave differently while simultaneously working to lower associated anxiety, can help hoarding behavior.”

The tough part, Diana, is getting your sister to admit that there is a problem and that she needs to seek professional help.

There is hope.


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July 2010 http://www.everydayhealth.com/emotional-health-specialist/helping-a-hoarder.aspx

August, 2012,  issue of the Archives of General Psychiatry

A&E TV show Hoarders









Dear MAx,
I get so upset with myself because I let people walk all over me, and then I get angry at them for doing that to me. Everyone includes my husband, kids, and friends. Why can’t I say no and mean it?


Dear Gabby,
BOUNDARIES! The greatest breakdown in communication since language was started! You are not the only one who has difficulty saying what you and mean what you say.

Whenever I facilitate my workshop series and I am falling behind in time, I consider leaving the boundaries material out. I ask the workshop participants how many feel they set strong boundaries. I don’t know why I continue to be surprised that many people don’t even know what a boundary is.

Simply put, a “boundary” is a rule, law, or request that indicates a border or limit.

Setting boundaries is not only a key to effective communication, it is also about learning to take care of your “self”, whatever happens, wherever you go, or who you are with. Boundaries emerge from your deep belief and deep decision that what you want and need, like and dislike, is important.

Essentially, there are four types of boundaries. First there are people who have NO boundaries. These people are usually called “criminals”. As children they were probably brought up in homes that had few, to no, rules, disrespect for personal ownership, and considered “different” or “outsiders” by people outside of the home. These are people that will easily pick something up in a store and walk out without paying for it. These are people who lie, manipulate, cheat, and disrespect limits put on them by anyone.

Next there are people that set boundaries, but, then, aren’t consistent themselves keeping the boundary, or, allow others to cross over the boundary. These people say that they won’t tolerate certain behaviors from other people, but do. An example is when a teen is given a curfew for phone use of 9:00 PM, stays on the phone until 9:10 PM, and reasons “It was only ten minutes.” The parent agrees and, thus, the boundary is broken by both the teen and the parent. The people that set this type of boundary worry about hurting other people’s feelings, but allow others to continue hurting them.

The third type of boundary is possibly the most severe. Picture a brick wall, reinforced with cement, and barbwire surrounding it. People who have this type of boundary don’t allow ANYONE in, but they also don’t reach out to anyone. People that are in this type of self-imprisonment feel very unsafe in the world. Origination of this type of boundary could have been caused by severe abuse or other emotional trauma. In addition to not feeling safe in the world, these people have become totally intolerant of the world.

Finally, the boundary to strive for is the HEALTHY boundary. This is where a limit is set by someone, and they stick to that limit. For instance, you say you don’t lend your car to anyone. Your friend asks to use the car to run errands. You say “no” because you don’t allow the car to be lent out. The people that set healthy boundaries have a good sense of who they are, what they will allow others to do to and for them, and stay consistent with the boundary, limits, they have set for themselves.

Which boundary can you claim?

Understand that the things you are sick of, can’t stand, and make threats about, may be clues to some boundaries you need to make within yourself. No one really respects someone they can walk over.

Here are a five strategies for setting “healthy boundaries”:

-Resolve to only surround yourself with people that respect you excluding people that would physically, sexually, emotionally, or verbally abuse you.
-Avoid drama triangles that produce chaos, manipulation, and triangulation.
-Be sure that the boundary you are setting is YOUR boundary.
-Set limits on what you will do to and for people.
-Set limits on what you will allow people to do to and for you.

If you are a “people pleaser” setting boundaries probably won’t feel comfortable for you at first. You may feel ashamed and afraid to set them. Do it anyway. The opposite feelings would be feeling happy and empowered with yourself.

Gabby, the best way to be sure that your boundaries will be kept is to communicate to the people you relate to what those boundaries are, then, be consistent, consistent, consistent.

Be well on your journey.

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Sagittarius: Visionary Seeker of Truth

Sagittarius: Visionary Seeker of Truth

Where there is no vision, there is no hope.

George Washington Carver

Wednesday November 21st the Sun will leave the intensely emotional and secretive water sign of Scorpio and enter the optimistic, expansive fire sign of Sagittarius. Each succeeding sign of the zodiac builds upon the foundation laid by the previous sign by rectifying or redirecting its energy. Sagittarius uplifts our true nature and essence revealed by Scorpio and connects us spiritually to the wider world.
The positive polarity of Sagittarius gives it an outwardly directed enthusiasm for exploring the world and acquiring new experiences. Goal directed and far seeing, Sagittarius is the archer, setting his aim for the stars. An idealistic philosopher, Sagittarius searches far and wide for knowledge, wisdom and a higher perspective in life.


The key phrase for Sagittarius is “I Understand.”Through Sagittarius the intellect is illuminated by the light of spirit. Sagittarius asks us to expand our view, seek higher learning, and find a broader perspective. Sagittarius knows a problem cannot be solved on the level it was created. It needs to be approached from a higher level, where we have a larger and more complete point of view. When we see the bigger picture we can find answers and possible solutions.
A seeker of truth in pursuit of knowledge, Sagittarius rules religions, philosophy, and institutions of higher learning.It rules foreign countries and languages, and traveling long distances to explore other cultures. Through these avenues Sagittarius expands its understanding of the world and uplifts its personal beliefs and philosophy of life.
Sagittarius loves adventure, physicality, freedom, wide open spaces, and the outdoors. The natural world and animals, especially horses and deer, are symbols of Sagittarius. It rules outdoor pursuits such as hunting, natural history and the science of ecology. Sagittarius enjoy participating in sports for the physical experience and knowledge gained.

Sagittarius’ love of wide open spaces can cause it to become claustrophobic and commitment phobic if it senses it is losing the mental, emotional and physical freedom it craves. Always on the move looking for the next new adventure beyond the horizon, Sagittarius easily becomes bored and restless. Lacking patience and focus, it misses details and lacks the staying power to see a project through to completion. It prefers to see the forest, and not the trees.

Sagittarius is friendly, direct, and values honesty. It is generous and willing to share. Fun-loving Sagittarius has a sense of humor. It inspires others to lighten up and be optimistic, to have faith and trust in the future.

The Sagittarius love of expounding on its philosophy can lead to preaching, close-mindedness and fundamentalism if unchecked. Problematic Sagittarius can become attached to being “right”, to being an expert, or a wise person or authority. In this way Sagittarius can cut itself off from exploring other points of view, beliefs or philosophies that might expand its own world view and spiritual vision of life.

Areas of life ruled by Sagittarius include our personal beliefs and philosophy, our vision of life. The higher mind and the ways we acquire wisdom, such as through formal education in university institutions, are Sagittarian. Venturing beyond our home to gain new experiences and long distance travel are in the domain of Sagittarius. Religious institutions, practices, rites and ceremonies are Sagittarian. Moral and ethical standards, the law, legal affairs, and publishing are all ruled bySagittariaus.
Archetypes for Sagittarius include philosophers, college professors and teachers, clergy, spiritual leaders, visionaries and shamans. Travelers and wanderers such as the cowboy riding off into the sunset are Sagittarius archetypes. Parts of the body ruled by Sagittarius include the hips, upper legs and thighs, the pancreas and fatty tissues. The gem for Sagittarius is turquoise. Its metal is tin. Sagittarius plants are birch trees and dandelion flowers. The color for Sagittarius is royal purple.

Truth resides in every human heart, and one has to search for it there, and to be guided by truth as one sees it.“

Edmund Burke

Jupiter, Ruler of Sagittarius

. . . The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.
William Hutchinson Murray

The planetary ruler of Sagittarius is Jupiter, the largest planet in our solar system. In astrology Jupiter symbolizes expansion, enthusiasm, and opportunity. In the astrological chart it represents good fortune, prosperity and blessings, benevolence and grace. It shows us how we can build trust and faith in ourselves, and how we can develop inner strength andconfidence.

Jupiter and Sagittarius rule serendipity, an unexpected outcome that results from taking action. When we take one step towards Grace, it takes one hundred steps towards us. When we make a leap of faith, take action, and let go of our expectations for a specific result, Jupiter is free to grace us with more luck and benevolence than we might have expected!
When you develop a vision and set goals, stay open and receptive to other possibilities and outcomes. Trust that far-seeing Jupiter can see something better for you down the road.
Jupiter Retrograde in Gemini
Jupiter moves retrograde approximately four months each year. It stationed retrograde on October 4th at 16 degrees Gemini. On January 30th it will station direct at 6 degrees and begin moving forward through the sign of Gemini once again.
A retrograde period is time for review, reflection, reconsidering and revamping. It is a time to be more internal, rather than pushing ahead in the outer world. Jupiter retrogrades ask us to look within to seek new meanings, and reach new levels of understanding.
Jupiter retrograde in the sign of Gemini is a time to reflect on how we think, explore new ideas, gather information and communicate with others. How well can we accommodate different points of view? Do we avoid being preachy and dogmatic when sharing our personal beliefs? Are we excessive or overly expansive in our thinking? Or are we cynical and doubtful?
Use this time to re-evaluate your personal philosophy of life. How can you broaden your way of thinking? What self-limiting beliefs are holding you back? How can mental flexibility better serve you? How can you expand your vision to create deeper spiritual connections?
Review plans and consider alternative options. Have faith and confidence in serendipity to bring you new opportunities and possibilities. When Jupiter moves direct at the end of January you may feel your luck change and be more ready to move forward to achieve your goals.

Celestial Events

The Month Ahead
As the Sun moves into Sagittarius Wednesday it conjoins the North Node in Scorpio. Focusing our conscious awareness on higher sights, and feeling uplifted through a connection to Spirit will assist our transformation and spiritual rebirth.
The Sun in Sagittarius disposits to retrograde Jupiter in Gemini, which squares the Moon in Pisces. This is a time for us to reflect on our personal connection to the greater world. As we share our ideas, visions, and beliefs with others, we must do so with emotional sensitivity and empathy, being aware of our spiritual oneness.


This year the Thanksgiving holiday falls on the day after the Sun’s ingress into Sagittarius. It is fitting that we celebrate Thanksgiving when the Sun is in jovial and generous Sagittarius. This is a time to connect with friends and family, and to express gratitude for all our good fortune and blessings.
While Sagittarius lends its fiery warmth, good cheer and love of fun to our winter holiday celebrations, it sometimes believes there can never be too much of a good thing! It can be over-indulgent with food and drink and extravagant with holiday shopping. Rein in excessive and irresponsible attitudes and behaviors during the holidays. Give thanks for all you have and are able to share with others. Stay connected to your deeper truths and what is genuinely meaningful in your life.

Mercury Retrograde in Sagittarius and Scorpio

The planet Mercury stationed retrograde November 6th at 4 degrees Sagittarius. It moved back into the sign of Scorpio on November 14th. It will continue its retrograde motion until November 26th when it stations direct at 18 degrees Scorpio.This retrograde period is a good time to go within and examine attitudes and beliefs that color your perception of life. How optimistic are you? Do you trust in grace and believe in serendipity? It is also a a time to investigate your thinking processes, and uncover any fear-based beliefs and attitudes that keep you suffering. Have the courage to heal and transform them. Purge jaded thoughts, cynicism, and sarcasm. Adopt a more uplifting philosophy of life that includes trust, faith and optimism to carry into the new cosmic cycle we enter on December 21st.
New Moon in Sagittarius
A New Moon occurs when the Sun and the Moon conjoin overhead from our perspective on Earth. This represents the fusion of our outer consciousness and awareness, symbolized by the Sun, with our inner emotional and unconscious self, symbolized by the Moon. This is a fertile time for new beginnings, for sowing the seeds of your new projects and endeavors.
The next New Moon will occur on Thursday December 13th at 12:42 a.m. (PST). This New Moon will be at 21 degrees Sagittarius, opposing Ceres in Gemini, and semi-sextile both the North Node conjunct Venus in Scorpio and Mars in Capricorn. This is an opportunity for us to create a new expansive vision of life that is connected to grace and benevolence. We will be challenged to remain optimistic as we search relentlessly for deeper truths and act with reserve and responsibility. We can create balance by sharing our thoughts and ideas in nurturing ways with others.
The area of your astrological chart where 21 degrees Sagittarius falls represents the area of your life where you can consciously create new beginnings to explore truth and gain a higher perspective of life. Set aside time to reflect on how you can create new beginnings in the areas of higher education, travel, religion, and philosophy. How can you expand your vision of life and learn how to believe? How can you best connect to your inner truth? Where can you experience grace and serendipity in your life?
You may wish to set some new goals or create some Sagittarius affirmations on this New Moon. Examples are: “I use my enthusiasm and love of learning to expand my understanding and wisdom.” “I connect with my spiritual truth, have faith in Grace, and trust in serendipity.” “I respect the spiritual path and Truth of others as I travel my own path.” “I expand and broaden my vision of the world as I journey through life.”
You will begin to see evidence of the seeds you sow on this New Moon as they come to fruition on the following Full Moon in Cancer on December 28th. This Full Moon will reward you with an emotional connection to your inner Truth that provides security and stability during changing times.
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.”

– Carl Jung


The phrase “Say what you mean and mean what you say” is a powerful statement.  Generally, people do just that.  Then, there are the times people speak out of emotion and mean what they say, but do not really want all of their real thoughts to be known.  There are many times people second guess their thoughts and do not say anything at all, or they do not know how to phrase into words what they want to communicate.

The last can be very true for children and teenagers, according to Lauren Schneider, LCSW, clinical director of Children’s Programs at Our House Grief Support Center, guest speaker through USC School of Social Work.  When children and teenagers suffer a loss of a loved one they may not be fully aware of what occurred, and when people speak to them about the loss they need direct words told to them rather than the gentle words that adults use.  Children will understand better when they are told, for instance, Grandma “died” instead of “passed.”

The same could be true when communicating about other topics with children and youth.  Their minds are still learning the ways to properly communicate.  So, they need direct communication with structure.  As adults it is much easier for us to understand what a person is trying to communicate when it is said to us directly, but by the time we have reached adulthood most of us have learned how to read between the lines.  Reading between the lines can be tricky, but adults have had years to learn the ulterior meanings.  As adults if we want our children to understand how to read between the lines it is our job to teach them this “trick” so communicating can be easier as they get older.  Yet, we still need to teach our children how to simply communicate.  So, teaching them how to say what they mean and mean what they say is best done by doing it ourselves with our children and teenagers.


Embrace the journey with your child as you experience the privilege of being a parent.

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